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3 (Silly) Beliefs That Stop Us From Asking for Help at Work, in Our Business, & in Our Career

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Have you ever felt overwhelmed, frustrated, or confused at work, or in deciding on a next step for your business or career?

What did you do?

My hope is that you instantly reached out to the nearest trusted friend, colleague or coach, and got immediate relief.

But in my everyday conversations with awesome people like you, I’ve learned that you avoid asking for help at work or in your career. And you end up staying stuck for waaaaayyy too long.   (And maybe if you’re reading this, you’re still avoiding it.)

I believe that any time spent wasting your talents and energy is too long, especially when you’ve got superpowers like yours to bring to the world. So let’s blast the silly, mistaken beliefs that are preventing you from asking for help at work, and let’s start practicing how to ask for help right now.


Why You’re Not Asking For Help At Work

Belief #1: “I should be able to figure this out on my own.”

Why? Because you’re used to being the smartest person in the room? There’s no doubt you’re smart, but let’s face facts.

None of us are smart about everything, always. And the smart person knows there are other smarter people out there. Or people who have already had the experience that you’re facing. Or who know the people you need to know.

So stop criticizing yourself to think you should have all the answers. The world is simply too big to assume we can figure things out alone.

Belief #2: “I’m sure the answer is online somewhere.”

Yes, possibly the perfect rainbow unicorn of an answer will appear online.

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Right after you do twelve searches, changing your search terms each time.

Right after you scan twenty articles from each search, seeking the tiny nugget of new data that makes sense.

Sure, there’s lots of info out there to help with work and career challenges (including right here in our own Free Tools library). But if you haven’t found it in a few minutes of search, you’re wasting your time.

But if you haven’t found what you need within a few minutes of search, you’re wasting your time.

I’m serious. Set a timer for five minutes. Then open up the Googler and go.

If in that five minutes the things you found don’t give you relief, a plan, or the answers, then let go of the myth that you’ll find the answer online.

Here’s why. The web is a great discovery tool for answers to very specific, tangible problems that have clear solutions that work for everyone, every time.

But many of our challenges at work are NOT specific and tangible. And what works for one person does not always work for another.

(There’s also a lot of garbage out there on career & success issues created to drive eyeballs to ads but written by people who’ve barely had a career nor much success.  I know–I get pitched by them all the time to write articles for us here at RedCapeRevolution.com. But I say no, because I’m committed to bringing you only the good stuff.)

So use your online resources, but don’t assume an unknown, faceless online article is going to give you the help you need.

Belief #3: “I don’t want to bother anyone–everyone’s busy.”

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If you believe this myth, you’re thinking about work upside-down.

Because most of the world of work is based on people “bothering” other people.

(Or, when it’s done right, it’s called “serving.”)

Is helping people a bother to people who have help to give? What if, by giving them an opportunity to help you, they get to feel like they’re being of service?

Maybe helping you will be the most rewarding thing they do all day.

Who are you to deny them that opportunity?

Plus, remember that the people you’re asking for help at work are also adults. That implies they can make their own decisions about where they spend their time and energy. They have the power of saying “no” or “not now.”

Really worried about other people’s time? Then hire a professional in the field as your coach or mentor. Our time is always better spent with you.

(Don’t think you have the time or money? Believe me, getting professional advice is a lot faster and a LOT less expensive than wasting the days of your life feeling bored, confused, angry or worse.)

So . . . what are the magic words to ask for help?

Go to someone you trust. Maybe they’re inside your organization; maybe they’re outside–a former colleague or even a professional coach like me.

Here’s what you say:

  • “Hey, I think I need some help. Can I pick your brain for a few minutes to help me figure out what step I need to take next?”

Why this works:

  • Doesn’t require any long-term obligation;
  • Gives a specific time commitment;
  • Doesn’t require finding THE PERFECT person–just start with the person who’s right in front of you that you trust;
  • Helps you articulate how you’re stuck, and what help you might need; and
  • Allows you to be a bumblebee if needed–you don’t have to stick only with ideas from this person, but rather can suck the brainhoney from a number of different people to see what ideas are out there.
(You don’t need to say much if you want to chat with me. I schedule a 30-minute free consultation with every single person who asks, with a goal to be helpful.  Click here to give us the basics & we’ll be in touch soon.)

Let’s get honest: the real thing you’re saying when you’re not asking for help at work

Finally, if you’ve been avoiding asking for help at work or in your career, you need to realize the REAL thing you’re saying to yourself. It’s this:

  • “I don’t value myself or my work that much.”

Ouch.

You’d never treat someone else with that much disrespect. Don’t you deserve better? I believe you do.

Ask for help right now.switch-gears-in-your-career-cover


How can I help YOU? Email me now and let’s chat.

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